Keys to a lasting marriage

If a couple brings God into the marrage and keeps Him there, they will stay together.

God doesn't have anything to do with a married couple staying together. Many indivuduals that are very religious decide to end a marriage for many different reasons.

Well either the article was poorly written or just plain poorly researched. It didn't tell anything a person with common sense or eyes to see doesn't already know.

I'm still looking for my fairytale...Never been married but raise a 9yr old all alone and have since birth. Have a job and a nice couch plus a big tv. Only smoke when I drink and that only 2-3 times a month. But boy there good times. Hmmm...wonder what my odds are of staying married....I bet it would depend on how much I devote myself and commit to trying...but what do I know.

Yes God is above all He has the power to seal and unseal anything on Earth and above.If a couple invites Him into the Mariage certainly He will sustain that Mariage for life.Just believe.

They say that the family that prays together stays together.

But what about all the preachers and pastors who cheat on their wives? (There's a LOT of them!!!) They pray together way more than most families. Hmmm. Maybe the expression is a lie for those who want to cling to the lie out of habit and fear.

So god, religion and prayer have little to do with successful marriage. If it were that simple, we would all just pray and everything would work out, wouldn't it?

What keeps a marriage going is self-giving love, over and over and over again. Loving in action till it hurts.

Married for 10 years with 5 children. It's not perfect, but it's forever...

Just a lot of give and take, and plenty of common sense will do the trick!!!

Yes, couples that are STRONG Christians do stay together. I have many friends that have the best marriages because of it. Yes of course you hear stories of pastors cheating, that isn't the norm though. I finally found a man that is like me in my beliefs and we are strong together and never fight. If Jesus is at the center and STAYS there, your marriage CAN'T fail. But the concept is HE STAYS ALWAYS.

Marriage is tough. Period. Young people nowadays seem to me to be real quick to call it quits. I believe that pose has a good point. Listen to the words you said during your vows, i mean really pay attention to them. Did you really believe it when you said it? If so than there is nothing you cant get through together.

It's pretty basic. The less selfish one is, the longer the marriage is likely to last.

I wonder how much tax payer money was spent on this vital research.

I believe those who cherish the institution of marriage and respect the vows they promise in sight of God and keep God in the center of the circle their marriage will last forever. It is those who keep the frame of mind "If it doesn't work, I can always get a divorce" who always fail because they are putting themselves first and not God who by the way was the one who instituted marriage.

the only way a marriage can work is if you are totally bonkers in love with someone from the get-go. if you settle, it will probably not work..

give and take - look past the flaws - love unconditionally

oh, and learn tantric sex

It's all about being compassionate, having the ability to compromise and being able to embrace your mate's faults as positive differences and not something annoying. You really have to love someone to do all that. I feel most people that are together really aren't in love truly.

this study is a statistical aberration , long marriages have got to do with how both husband and wife learn from their mistakes and change their way of thinking and grow in the marriage.Respect for each other and knowing how to handle disagreements and arguments is important.Of course sex is important,but not the most, for you only spend so much time in bed,but you need to feel like you don't want to be with anyone else but your partner.Money is probably the hardest thing in a marriage,and if finances are hard,then you have to move it down on the list of priorities, because sometimes ,no matter what you do you can't change it so why worry about it.

Wow the odds are really against my marriage considering both my husband and I were previously married and have children from those marriages. But I tell you what, we do go to church together and Sunday school and can tell you that neither of else ever felt this close to someone before. We are stronger than most couples I know that have been married for years. I think learning from your mistakes, communicating, sharing, give and take, not sweating the little things and our Christianity have all made our marriage what it is today. Who cares about statistics, I'm betting on us.

I will try my hardest to avert those odds!

I have been married for 24yrs, not all great, we have been through some stuff that would make most marriages crumble, being faithful has not been one of those, but I smoke, husband don't, we are not poor, but are far from being rich, I think marriage is what you and your spouse make it, I do believe that god plays a roll, but mostly, it should be a partnership, believing in the same things, morals, same goals and doing common things together, we have a 21yr old son, we had a daughter that would be 23 now, she went to heaven at the age of 2, thing is...our close friends and family said that we would never make it, but here we are, we are best friends, and yes we are still in love, but it does take more than just being in love. I think some people jump in to quick, and jump out even quicker, not knowing what they could be missing

I also think this study can be translated any old way you want to read it. For instance, there was nothing mentioned about having a healthy spiritual life for either one or both partners.

I agree with everyone that stated this article was pointless. anyone with commone sense would know these things. YOu knwo what else ruins marraiges and relationships? articles that give statistics like this! over something you can't control!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i can't control if my parents got a divorce.. so now "statistically" my relationships aren't going to last! bull s*** If you love the person, accept their faults, and CONTINUE to WORK for the relationship forever.. then it will last forever..

regardless of beliefs, statistics, backgrounds, whatever. The problem with marraiges failing isn't just the reasons above.. its the fact that couples don't TALK about these things before they get married. Kids? where to live? jobs? COMMON SENSE PEOPLE YOu know what i think the problem is? now a days, people are just too LAZY we are constantly surrounded by products that make things "easier". even the life of someone who doesn't work STILL has a tight schedule! We are all about EVERYTHING being fast, easy, and reliable. so naturally since people are used to this.. they expect the relationship to be the same. Personaly, if you love them.. TRUELY love them.. then you will be willing to work for them.. and deal with whatever problems come your way.

me and my wife want the same things down the road and i am not going anywhere. I would have a hard time finding anyone who would understand me like my wife doe's. We are going the same direction in life and that's what a marriage needs.

I'm wondering why there wasnt an in-law factor? That certainly is a sure kill situation.

Just finished a book 'The color of water' by Thomas McBride.
This is the very best from this book:
for marriage you need Love.God.A Little Money
That's it.
Of course it always helps if one or the other partner has more than a little money, but being comitted is what works also.

I was married for 28 years to the greatest lady I ever knew. We where still holding hands till the day cancer took her from me. She was much more than a wife, she was my best friend, lover, the beat of my heart, the center of my life, my soulmate. Agree to disagree that is OK but don't let others do it for you. Remember you forsaked all others to cling to each other. Become one with each other and do things that make you one together it will make your marraige stronger. Even though this was our second marraige for both of us it didn't make any differance. Remember people who are unhappy like seeing others unhappy. Every body would comment on how great our marriage was and communicate everyday even if it is about nothing. She is in God's kingdom now and one day I will join her and we will walk though eternity together.

Silly article.

beleiving in god does not have anything to do with a couple staying married that is bad logic and a faulty argument; correlation is not causation it has nothing to do with empirical data it is just your opinion based on assumptions and belief not facts

Husband and I have been married for 46 years. He smokes, I don't. He drinks 2 or 3 drinks each night. I don't. We're both the same age and we got married in our Senior year in High School. We go to church more in the last year than in 45 years. We have two kids and two grandkids. We give and take. He's my rock and my love.

This was the biggest waste of the last 5 min.

I understand that many people would love to find out what make a strong relationship or marriage, however the strong Hyperbole laced article gave me nothing that could possibly help anyone if myself looking for little nuggets that could prolong any relationship. I could have written this article while playing with exposed electrical wires while standing in a puddle of grape kool-aid....Yawn.

It's not as simple as this, however. Today many marriages just don't last. I really think there are 6 factors that are essential for a relationship to work. These are: Honesty and trust, communication, sex, independence, and the ability to compromise. Without these. It just won't work. When you are in a relationship, whether married or not, it isn't just about you.You have to take into account that the other person has thoughts and feelings. I think today, many people forget that relationships are a 2 way street. It isn't just about making yourself comfortable. It's also about being supportive to your partner.