Trust in marriage -- can it be regained?

Dear Cary,

Two and a half years ago, my husband had an "affair." We had been working through a really difficult time -- moved away from New York City to take jobs in a provincial town where we knew no one, had a baby, dealt with my postpartum depression, all the while trying to maintain our careers (and get tenure). We started marriage counseling, mostly to deal with our constant fights,… » Full Story on Salon.com